“The decision to stop Mum driving, the decision to stop her looking after the grandchildren, the move to downstairs living, the first use of incontinence pants, the addition of home carers, the weekends in respite, all these moments have been critical. But the permanent move to residential care is the single most important decision we have ever taken, and one of Mum’s most major life changes, made on her behalf but without her consent – because she was unable to offer it.”

Probably the best care home in the world?